“Two become three,” and suddenly everything changes. At Pasadena Perinatal Therapy, we believe the couple relationship is one of the most essential supports on the perinatal journey, yet it is often the most overlooked. Nurturing the “us” after a baby arrives helps build a foundation for long-term family wellness.

What Changes When You Become Parents

The transition to parenthood transforms routines, roles, and relationships. New parents often experience less sleep, less connection, and more responsibility. Small frustrations can grow into arguments, and emotional intimacy can fade. According to Postpartum Support International, nearly two-thirds of couples report increased relationship tension after birth, emphasizing the need for proactive support.

Why Intention Matters 

Without intentional care, relationships drift. For new parents, setting aside time for connection might feel indulgent, but it is essential. Therapeutic models, such as Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), help partners communicate effectively, manage conflict, and rekindle emotional closeness. The Gottman Institute notes that healthy relationships thrive when partners consistently invest in understanding one another.

Three Relationship Check-Ins You Can Try

1. Shift From a Complaint to a Request: Replace “You never help with the baby” with “When you handle bedtime, it helps me rest and feel supported, so can you do that?”
2. Two-Minute Emotional Exchange: Each week, take two minutes to share one feeling and one need, with no interruptions or judgment.
3. Small Rituals of Connection: Spending five minutes together after bedtime talking, laughing, or simply holding hands can help restore closeness.

When to Seek Couple Therapy

You may benefit from support if you feel like roommates instead of partners, argue frequently, or notice growing resentment about responsibilities. Therapy can help you reconnect before those feelings become a chronic issue. Research published by the National Library of Medicine shows that early relationship counseling can improve communication, reduce conflict, and enhance emotional satisfaction among new parents.

How Pasadena Perinatal Therapy Can Help

Our therapists specialize in perinatal, parenting, and relational therapy. We use trauma-informed, evidence-based methods to help couples rebuild emotional safety and joy during the postpartum period. By strengthening your bond, you strengthen your entire family system.

If your partnership feels strained, schedule a consultation today. Together, we can help you reconnect and rediscover the love that brought your family to life.